I have been out of town the past few days/nights on business, and was taking a few minutes away from “two-player wii games” with my son to login and check my email. After about five minutes in the office, he comes in with two malted milk balls in his hand. They were his last two in the package, and he wanted me to have one. I have been avoiding sugar lately because of a 30-day cleanse I have embarked on… and am trying to remain as faithful as possible. The giant smile he had when he came to me with his hand outstretched, quickly turned into a big frown when I said “no…, but thank you”.
Right at that moment, I realized that I had deprived him of something really important. His ability to share something important with me. To me it was a piece of candy…. but, to him it was a gesture of his love.
After seeing his response to my saying “no”, I quickly held out my hand to receive his gift of love and said, “thank you, that was very nice of you to share one of your last two candies with me”. That piece of candy was more than a lump of chocolate and sugar to him. It was a piece of his heart that he wanted me to have. And, I have to say it was just what I needed.
We forget sometimes that those small gestures have much greater meaning hidden in them. Someone reaching to open the door for you when your hands are full, offering to lift your suitcase onto the rental car van for you, or reaching out their arm to steady you as you climb aboard. They are not trying to tell you that you are not capable, but rather giving you a gift. And, when you refuse their help, their hand, their arm… their ear… whatever it is… you are denying them the ability to express their feelings for you.
Please remember next time someone tries to help you in some way or give you a gift… accept it graciously. Because when they cannot give to you, you are taking something important away from them. Allowing them to give to you is a “gift” to them, and not accepting takes away their joy of giving and replaces it with emptiness. Remember to accept graciously… is the greatest gift of all.
Love and Light,